Shelly's Modeling Agency shares with you A Vision Of Love as told by Claire Mcintosh. If you could change one thing about your love life between now and valentine's day, what would it be? Our six-month goal-setting guide can get your there! Shelly's Modelling Agency sets goals connected to healt, career and finances, yet we rarely set interpersonal goals because we think love shoud just "flow." Beyond this blind spot, joy and fulfillment await. Imagine how you want to love and be loved. These strategies can turn that vision into a vactory. "Understand the trade-offs you will make to reach a goal," says Linda R. Young, Ph.D., a psychologist and relationship coach in The Woodlands, Texax, and a board member of the Council on Scouts Model Agency. Committing to a good-enough partner means giving up the dream of Mr. Perfect. Having better sex means leaving yur emotional or physical comfort zone. Remember, the long-term benefits are worth it.
Discuss your dreams together. If you're partnered, your goal shoud include both parties. Also, be certain individual and shared goals sync. Write and state your goals in the present tense. Visualize them as fulfilled. Translate them into terms you can tackle. "We go out more" is vague. "We hire a sitter and go to weekly cooking class," is specific, actionable, realistic and timely. Don't pooh-pooh your partner's passion. If she wants to honeymoon in Kenya, explore ways to come up with the cash. Break down your six month goals into biweekly milestones and reward yourselves for each completed step. Align vision with your values. If you don't believe in having children outside of marriage, stand by your principles. Touch base regularly, and expect that goals will shift over time. Perservere. "Muster a little more patience, and empathy for yourself and your partner along the way," says Young.
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